


I’m not going to lie, I didn’t message him -I typed something out on the notes app but then I just left it there. “Do you have to tell him? Can’t you just draw a line under it yourself? What if he didn’t even realise and now you’ve just embarrassed yourself?” I could tell my friend Vicky thought it was a shit idea because her mouth bunched up at one side. I just want to draw a line under it now.’” Like ‘I started to develop feelings - I don’t think you’re into it – which is fine. “I’m going to apologise to him for making things awkward. In pretending not to care, I only showed how much I really did. But I’m sure he could smell the desperation on me like I could watching Abbey. I thought that in order to win his interest, I would have to trick him into it because no one would do it by choice. I guess somewhere along the way, I just stopped feeling like “myself” was enough. I asked him about how decorating his room was going, told him his top looked nice. We laughed about how the five minutes while you sit in a car and wait for the other person to come back with the parking ticket are the most blissful and warm on earth. He told me to keep going because he liked hearing the things that could calm me down. Like “I will go to the gym and the workout will be good and no one will come up to me and tell me I’m doing it all wrong” and “I will look really nice in that dress and I don’t need to buy something else just so I feel like I have more options”. I told him about myself, like how recently I’d taken to listing the best possible scenario for the things I was anxious about to calm myself down. In the lead-up to our first, second, third kiss, I acted around him the same as I always did - largely because I had no expectations of anything progressing. I wasn’t like this with my friend before.

But a lot of the reason isn’t because you’re not funny or hot or smart or interesting, it’s the way you behave, the signals you give off (and also because a lot of men are awful). It’s sh*t always being the girl that men don’t take seriously. So much, he picks her up and spins her around, burying his head in her hair like it’s the best-smelling thing in the world. Roxy laid all her cards down on the table and he saw that there was so much great stuff on there. In playing games, Abbey didn’t win anything, she only invited Kamari to compete and the game never ended, they just carried on going round and round the board.
#SUN HAVEN DATING TV#
I acted very strangely.Īfter they had sex, she checked in, and even though there was a strong possibility of rejection, told him straight: “I like the way I feel when I’m with you.” I was practically screaming at the TV when he responded: “Whenever I’m around you, I feel like I hold myself up to a certain standard because you’re passionate about everything from your family to standing up for what you believe in, the people you care about - and you’re going to go to war for them and yourself. I invited him to a party and then uninvited him, then invited him again. I rang him when I was drunk thinking it would be cute and crazy - instead I went on a rant about how carrots have too much of an overwhelming flavour and when he wouldn’t let me come over, dramatically announced: “I don’t even know who you are anymore.” I was always trying to make him jealous, putting my hand on other men’s shoulders, laughing like a witch at their jokes. When I saw him at parties, I’d walk away from conversations with him while they still interested me because I wanted to seem aloof and hard to pin down. After we first kissed, I left long gaps between my replies to his messages because I liked the idea of him becoming anxious waiting on me: lobbing his phone across the room because a Twitter notification got his hopes up unable to concentrate on the sentences in his book because he couldn’t stop thinking about the cute way my nose flicks up at the end. I’ve written a column about this guy before but I’m not saying which one because then he’ll know I’m talking about him.

I fancy this friend of mine a lot, so my behaviour towards him is particularly weird. It’s unfair that the more you like someone, the less attractive you are around them.
